When we are born, we are the most vulnerable, entirely helpless but we survive and grow up to become who we are today. What makes us strong to take this journey called life is Compassion. First and foremost, it is given to us by our mothers, extended family and so on. Without another’s loving care, none of us would have loved more than a few days. A disposition towards such an affection is part of our biology. Whenever we face difficulties in life we turn towards others for support and comfort. (nature of our life is interdependent)
This proves that our wellbeing depends greatly on the warmth and kindness of others. Even more important than the warmth and affection we receive is the one we give. It is through giving warmth and affection, through being genuinely concerned for others----in other words, through compassion---that we gain the conditions for genuine happiness. For this reason, loving is of great importance than being loved.
Compassion is both for us and others: When compassion and warm heartedness arises in us, and shifts our focus away from narrow self-interest, we open an inner door. Compassion reduces our fears, boosts our confidence and brings us inner strength. By reducing distrust, it opens us to others and brings us a sense of connection with them and a sense of purpose and meaning in life. Compassion is a self-healer and it gives us a way to be able to reciprocate the love and affection we got when we needed it the most.
Compassion is the central tenant of major traditions and the foundation for a peaceful and happy society.
True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly compassionate attitude towards others does not change even if they behave negatively.
H.H The DALAI LAMA
In some recent studies I’ve conducted, we have found that when people perform behaviors associated with compassionate love—warm smiles, friendly hand gestures, affirmative forward leans—their bodies produce more oxytocin. This suggests compassion may be self-perpetuating: Being compassionate causes a chemical reaction in the body that motivates us to be even more compassionate.
DACHER KELTNER (PROFESSOR OF PSYCHOLOGY AT UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA)
“A sense of concern that arises when we are confronted with another’s suffering and feel motivated to see that suffering relieved. Compassion is a response to the inevitable reality of our human condition—our experiences of pain and sorrow—and offers the possibility of responding with understanding, patience, and kindness.”
THUPTEN JINPA (SCHOLAR , AUTHOR AND TRANSLATOR)